So…a little more on this guy…
He is exactly the combination of things I am looking for. He’s smart, educated, ambitious, successful, hardworking, funny, attractive (REALLY), interesting, friendly, gentlemanly….I could keep going. And I haven’t met him yet. I’m partially waiting for the other shoe to drop. But partially, I think he’s for real. I mean…I’ve never felt this way so instantly about anyone. Ever. And he says the same thing. We talk about 4 times a day, about everything and nothing.
I am going back into the city on Wednesday, and we are meeting that night. I am so excited. And so nervous. I just have a feeling about him. I really don’t know what else to say. I’m trying really hard not to put all my romantic hopes into this one basket…but I kind of just want to cancel my plans with all the other guys. I’m not going to….yet. But here’s the thing….I already like him more than I like Aaron. So I feel like regardless of what happens with the new guy, I need to tell Aaron that I don’t think it’s going to work. But I have no idea how to do that. I’m terrible at stuff like this. And normally, I wouldn’t give much thought to telling someone I’ve been out with a few times that I am taking a different path, but I’m friends with Aaron’s sister. And I need to be mindful of that.
Does anyone have any advice for “breaking up” with someone you’ve only been on a few dates with? Preferably in a way that doesn’t piss him or his sister off too much???
Confessions of a Former Relationship Junkie 
Aug 27, 2011 @ 19:13:54
Ack, I suppose it all depends on how into you Aaron is. Is this going to break his heart. If not, then just be honest. “I really enjoyed the time we spent together and right now I just don’t see this developing into a relationship.” Do not tell him you met someone else. Nothing pisses a guy off faster than saying you chose someone else over him.
Eeek, good luck, I always hate having to give someone the brush off.
Aug 27, 2011 @ 19:20:12
I think it might…. 😦
I’m so bad at these kind of things!
Aug 27, 2011 @ 20:27:39
Me too. And I really don’t know what the best course of action is. Unfortunately I don’t think there is a “right” thing to say. Pretty much anything you say is going to hurt his feelings.
Aug 29, 2011 @ 21:22:43
I think its important that you tell Aaron that its not working out. If you keep going then he will only keep hoping that it is. If you get more feelings for this new guy and less for Aaron then its probably a sign 🙂 Go with what your heart tells you!